Therapy & coaching that help you
find yourself again.
Specialized support for betrayed partners, couples, and individuals rebuilding after the ground fell out. Therapy in person in Mesa and online across Arizona — coaching available anywhere in the world.
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Something happened that
you didn't see coming.
Even though life on the outside looks mostly the same — you feel completely different inside. These are some of the ways it shows up.
The discovery
You discovered your partner's pornography use, sex addiction, or secret sexual behavior — and your world shifted in an instant.
Carrying it alone
You're carrying this mostly alone — you can't explain it to friends, and your family doesn't fully understand what you're going through.
Stay or leave: both feel impossible
You're trying to decide whether to stay or leave, but you can't think clearly enough to figure that out. The pressure to decide makes everything worse.
Losing grip on yourself
You feel like you're losing grip on who you were before this happened. Your instincts feel unreliable. You second-guess everything.
The shame that isn't yours
You keep asking yourself, "what does this say about me"—and underneath that a shame that was never yours to carry in the first place.
Back to square one
You think you're getting stable, then something triggers you back to square one. The cycle feels endless without the right support.
When betrayal goes unaddressed,
it doesn't stay still. It seeps into everything.
Your body stays on high alert
The hypervigilance, intrusive thoughts, waves of anger followed by grief — these don't resolve on their own. Your nervous system stays stuck in the moment of discovery, even when life moves on around you.
The decisions stay impossible
Whether to stay or leave doesn't get clearer with time alone. Without support, the pressure builds while clarity doesn't come — and the weight of that unanswered question compounds everything else.
You lose yourself a little further
The longer this sits without real help, the harder it gets to remember what feeling safe actually felt like. The version of yourself you knew before this — grounded, trusting your instincts — gets harder to reach.
You don't have to keep managing this alone.
We start by finding
steady ground.
I work with people at exactly this point, not after they've figured things out, but right in the middle of it. My approach starts with one priority: stabilizing you first. Before the decisions, before figuring out the relationship—your nervous system needs to feel safe again.
From there, we work through what happened at your pace, using well-researched approaches designed exactly for the emotional wounding betrayal creates. Down the road, when things have stabilized and both partners want to rebuild, the work expands to relationship repair.
Debbie McRae
LPC · CSAT · EMDR-Certified · Brainspotting · CPLC · Therapy & CoachingI'm a licensed therapist and a Certified Professional Life Coach based in Mesa, Arizona. I provide therapy in person and online across Arizona, and coaching to clients anywhere in the world. Since 2017, I've specialized in one of the most specific and underserved wounds in the field: betrayal trauma.
I hold the CSAT credential — Certified Sex Addiction Therapist — earned by a few thousand therapists in the country. It means I've been specifically trained in the dynamics of out-of-control sexual behavior, the impact on partners and families, and what actual recovery looks like for everyone involved. I'm also EMDR-Certified, Brainspotting trained, ERCEM-certified, certified in clinical hypnotherapy, and trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy — because healing from betrayal requires more than talk therapy alone. I'm also APSATS-trained and currently completing my certification as a Certified Clinical Partner Specialist-Candidate (CCPS-C) — specialized training focused specifically on helping partners heal from betrayal.
What I can tell you is this: I've worked with enough betrayed partners to know the pain is real, it's profound, and it doesn't resolve on its own. You're not overreacting. You're not weak. If you're looking for deeper healing, real recovery, and genuine connection on the other side of this — I want to help you get there.
"If you are looking for deeper healing, recovery, and connection, I want to help you achieve it."
This practice is built around
one specific wound.
Most therapists who treat relationship issues are generalists. This work isn't.
Specialized, Not General
My practice is built almost entirely around betrayal — partners of sex addicts, individuals healing from infidelity, couples trying to repair something that felt unrepairable. When you walk in, I already understand the landscape. You don't have to explain it from scratch.
Beyond One-on-One Sessions
I offer what most individual practices don't: group work. Groups for betrayed partners, couples groups, post-traumatic growth groups. Some of the deepest healing happens when you realize you are not the only person who has ever felt this way.
Trauma-Specific Clinical Tools
EMDR, Brainspotting, the Prodependence model, Accelerated Resolution Therapy — approaches designed specifically for how betrayal trauma forms and lives in the body. Not adapted from general therapy; built for this work.
Therapy in Arizona, Coaching Worldwide
Therapy sessions are available in person in Mesa and via telehealth throughout Arizona. For clients outside Arizona — anywhere in the world — I offer betrayal-recovery coaching. I work with individuals, couples, and groups, because recovery isn't one-size-fits-all, and the right next step is different for everyone.
Every kind of work
betrayal recovery requires.
From individual therapy to group support to couples work — support that meets you where you are and goes as deep as you need.
Betrayal Trauma Therapy
For women navigating the aftermath of a partner's pornography addiction, sex addiction, or hidden sexual behavior. Specialized, specific, and built around where you actually are.
Learn moreInfidelity Therapy
When trust has broken down — whether you're trying to decide what comes next or committed to rebuilding — I work with individuals and couples at every stage of the process.
Learn moreNarcissistic Abuse Recovery
Boundary violations, identity confusion, the slow erosion of your sense of self. If you've been in a relationship defined by these patterns, there's a way to find your footing again.
Learn moreCouples Therapy
Betrayal changes both people in a relationship. Couples work with me is structured, safe, and focused on rebuilding honest communication and emotional safety, not just getting back to normal.
Learn moreHealing Groups
Small groups for betrayed partners and couples at different stages of recovery. A space to be honest, be heard, and realize you are not as alone in this as it has felt.
Learn moreIntensive Sessions
For individuals or couples who need to move faster than weekly sessions allow. Half-day and full-day formats available for a deeper, concentrated experience.
Learn moreThree steps. No guesswork.
Getting started doesn't have to feel overwhelming. Here's what it looks like from here.
Reach Out
Book a free 15-minute consultation. No commitment — just a conversation to see if this feels like the right fit.
Begin Your Work
We start by stabilizing you, then move through what happened at a pace that's right for you — in individual sessions, couples work, or group.
Find Steady Ground
Rebuild trust in yourself, your instincts, and what comes next. Life doesn't go back to what it was. It becomes something you can actually stand on.
Questions people ask
before reaching out.
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No. That pressure is one of the most unfair things about where you are right now. You don't have to know. The goal is to stabilize you first — so that any decision you eventually make comes from clarity, not panic.
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My primary focus is supporting betrayed partners. I also work with couples who are committed to repairing and rebuilding their relationship after betrayal, with the understanding that healing begins by helping the betrayed partner regain a sense of safety and stability first.
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Individual therapy provides a private, one-on-one space to focus on your personal healing and process your betrayal more deeply. Groups offer the support of other women who truly understand what you're going through while teaching practical tools and skills for moving forward in your healing. Many of my clients do both.
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I'm a private-pay practice. I don't bill insurance directly, but I can provide a superbill you can submit to your insurer for potential reimbursement, depending on your plan.
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Both. My office is in Mesa, AZ at 2500 S. Power Rd., and I offer telehealth therapy to anyone in Arizona — about half my clients work with me in person and half online. If you're outside Arizona, we can still work together through coaching, which I offer to clients anywhere in the world.
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You don't have to feel ready. Most people start in the middle of acute pain, not after it's resolved. If you're in it now and you've been trying to manage alone, that's usually enough of a signal. A free 15-minute call is a low-pressure way to ask your questions and see if this feels right.
Find Us
2500 S. Power Rd., Bldg. 9, Suite 222 — Mesa, AZ 85209
You don't have to keep doing this alone.
If you're ready to stop managing and start actually healing, I'd like to talk. A free 15-minute call is the only first step.
Message Me "You're not alone. Let's do this together."